MEN PLEASE READ Before Trying to "10x" an Online Business Again

How copywriters, freelancers, and online coaches can divorce their time from their money

Once I was faced with the natural consequences of how attached I was to my expectations of life?...

And how I looked in the process of pursuing them?

The more anxious I became.

I was chasing all those things I thought were important…

I thought MORE CLIENTS were the key to getting everything I wanted…

If I could just 10x my business!

I thought if I get more clients?

I’ll make more MONEY…

If I make more money?

I’ll be more successful!

If I’m more successful...

I’ll attract a really good woman.

When I have a really good woman?

I’ll have a bigger reason to provide!

When I have someone I provide for I’ll feel IMPORTANT.

Well…

They were decent intentions…

But flawed from the get go.

When my status in the world became my GOD?…

…no amount of worship was enough to save me from myself.

Fact is, I was chasing certainty…

That SHINY GOAL on the top of the hill…

And the more I chased it?

The farther it got…

…and the less fulfilled I felt everyday.

When I DID reach a goal?

Do you think I took time to be grateful for it?

Nope…

It was immediately replaced with another goal.

And of course it was always a BIGGER one.

“Cause I gotta 10x mah business!…”

I was CERTAIN where I was going and what I wanted…

And every day I unconsciously made sure people KNEW it.

So I would feel seen…

Known…

And appreciated…

But at the end of the day?

This never filled the void inside…

On a deep level…I didn’t really feel important.

And I was looking for certainty OUTSIDE of myself to validate I was.

I came to the conclusion that it's more useful to FALL IN LOVE with the UNCERTAINTY of life…

…rather than chasing certainty.

Because another word for uncertainty is SURPISE!

It did feel unnatural at first… 

Mainly because I was so attached to my feelings of familiarity...

And addicted to the the feeling of control.

Even if it was in form of white knuckling my everyday life.

It’s funny because it wasn’t until I focused on what my everyday life was REALLY like?

That I realized how much whiteknuckling I was doing.

But today? It feels expansive to LET GO.

So I dropped the entitlement.

Avoided arrogance.

Let go of the expectations of other people and if they accepted me…

…or how life was supposed to show up.

And I did my best to stop using labels for both myself and people around me.

So instead focusing OUT THERE…

…I could point my FOCUS at what's actually important to me on a deep intimate level INSIDE…

When I started making THIS a practice?

And living from the INSIDE OUT…

I was free to create and experience JOY…NOW(er).

Predictably…

Every day…

Because I wasn't trying to live in pursuit of later….

Like chasing big goals…

…chasing money…

…or chasing women.

I wasn’t trying to be ACCEPTED…

…I accepted WHO I was.

And focused on who I wanted to BE.

What I've discovered by LIVING INTO this stance on a daily basis...

Is that the less of an identity I’m attached to?

Or the less expectation I have of how people should show up…

…or how those outcomes should unfold?

The easier my life seems to be…

And the more FUN and LUCTATIVE my life is.

The minute I stopped injecting OTHER PEOPLES values into my own and attempting to live by them?

The more JOY that began to unfold in my life DAILY.

Consistently.

And predictably.

Whenever I caught myself saying, I should, I need to, I’m supposed to, or I aught to?

THAT was a clue I was injecting someone ELSE’s values system into my own…

…and attempting to live my life by it.

Making my life HARD.

That’s why I see so many good folks BURN OUT trying to CHASE or 10x'ing their Freelancing, Copywriter, or Online Coaching business.

But when my daily intent is to do what LIGHTS ME UP FIRST?

Based on MY values? (not someone else’s)

And investing my time in what I can’t NOT DO every day?

Instad of spending my time chasing client pay days?

Lemme just say, EVERYTHING changes…

Including the SPEED and AMOUNT of money that came into my life.

Now, I’m not saying I got this all down airtight.

But it sure feels good in practice these days.

And my life sure is a lot more fun and lucrative.

Would you like to know HOW I sped up the amount of money crashing into my bank account?

Chime in down below in the comments.

If I get enough interest I’ll share all the deets.

In your corner,

~ Tony